hook up ski rope In 1998, I set off a chain of events that would lead me down a path I should have expected but was too naïve to understand. I found myself with a newborn and a one-way ticket to prison. After weeks turned into months, months into four years, I started asking all those around me about their children. I saw some mothers lose their minds. I saw some ignore the reality and wrap themselves in walls of denial. And I saw others take their lives because they lost their child to the system, custody, or a caretaker.

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site rencontres sГ©rieuses Ultimately, I survived my time in prison. With the help of an amazing community, my son survived it as well. But the damage to my son when he was the child of an incarcerated parent years ago can never be undone. I am fortunate that through my support community and my work to turn my life around, my son has a new reality. He also now has a functioning, legitimate member of society as his mother—one he didn’t have so soon after his entry into this world. The thought on how many children in the United States live or have lived his early experience is saddening.

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site de rencontre 1 personne par jour Today, I am making it my mission to share my mistakes my successes with others, hopefully to guide them to a different outcome after similar mistakes. It is estimated that over 2.3 children in the United States have a parent in jail or prison. As the incarcerated population grows so does the number of children being impacted. These children need to dream, see magic in their lives and be allowed to want something better. They need to be rewarded, encouraged, and supported.

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pourquoi rencontre t on certaines personnes Sadly we don’t know enough about these children or what they are facing while their parents are incarcerated. No real numbers have been collected about this population since 2007. These children are being sentenced alongside their parents, though they are not guilty of any crime. COTI’s goal is to spearhead action uplift, support and protect these children so they know there are paths other than their parent's footsteps.

ADVOCATING FOR THE CHILDREN Why do we feel advocating for the Children of the Incarcerated is so important? A national study by Child Welfare Services estimated that among children with recently arrested parents, one in five children had clinically significant internalizing problems such as depression, anxiety, withdrawal, and one in three had clinically significant externalizing problems such as aggression, attention problems, disruptive behavior. This was compared to roughly one in ten children in the general population. If we ignore the struggles of these children, we are ignoring the disproportionate risk for failure that they face—and they face these odds due to no fault of their own!

The Children Are Not Guilty
  • 2.7 million US children have a parent behind bars
  • 4.3 million US Children plus have a parent on probation or parole
  • 25% of female prisoners’ children did not know that their mothers were in prison. Experts agree this is unhealthy.
  • Children with incarcerated fathers are 23% versus 4% more likely to be expelled or suspended from school.
COTI By The Numbers
  • 50% of COTI are under 10 years old
  • 70% of COTI were present at a parent's arrest
  • 30% of COTI were confronted with drawn weapons at parent’s arrest
  • 50% of COTI are raised by grandparents
  • 66% of COTI are raised by single grandmothers in poverty
  • 10% of COTI will themselves be incarcerated by age 1
Difficult Road Ahead
  • Most prisons are not accessible by public transportation, making it difficult or it impossible for child-parent visits.
  • There is no data on how many COTI are in foster care or homeless.
  • Children who continue to stay in touch with their parent in prison exhibit fewer disruptive and anxious behaviors. The parents exhibit less recidivism and reunification is easier upon their release.